I wear a weave proudly. I'm not ashamed by the term, the process or the purchase. When it comes to "dah weave," I believe the hair is absolutely mine dahhling... because I bought it. However, I only recently realized that I was an addict. After being hit by the nasty recession monster last year and having a drastic change in my career, I had to reevaluate my hair decisions because my entire bottom line was going to fund my mane. This was problematic to say the least. On January 1st, when everyone was proclaiming their resolution, I was telling everyone that I vowed to bring in 2010 with my natural hair. But the first time I looked in the mirror and didn't see my hair cascading down my back, I had to reevaluate the whole natural hair reevaluation.I pay a good penny for my mane masterpieces, not including the price of the hair to be purchased. A lover of natural-looking weaves only, I knew I couldn't start buying 19.99 packaged hair, and I surely wasn't going to let my homegirl Alisha, who just YouTube'd how to weave, work on my hair.
Met with the difficult decision to either go broke maintaining my weave every two months, or find an alternative that allowed me to save cash but still keep my 'do done, I did some research (yes, it gets that deep). I came across a technique called a Brazilian weave, a process very similar to microlinks. Like the links, or cylinder process, your hair is parted row by row in small sections/boxes, and then the weave is attached with a thin nylon tie for a barely noticeable weave. Cue the angelic music -- my prayers had been answered! After digging deeper, I realized this technique of weaving has been used by Caucasians and others of Spanish decent since the beginning on time. Expensive? Yes, but it was a ridiculously natural-looking weave that didn't include glue, braids, needle or thread, and it can be worn for up to six months.
Yes, six months. So I jetted to Brooklyn to pick up hair from True Indian Hair Salon, then headed back to New Jersey to get it put in, not by Brazilian woman, surprisingly, but by a Dominican beautician named Belia who had mastered the technique.
The complete process took two visits, and on the second one, tragedy struck -- Haiti was hit with a devastating earthquake. With the Dominican Republic within such close proximity to Haiti, people in the shop were in an uproar. Here I was, trying to get my Brazilian wavy on, and the crisis in Haiti and the concern on the faces of everyone snapped me out my hair trance. I had a moment where I asked myself, why am I trying to determine if there should be a few more rows added to my crown when there were thousands who had just lost their lives?
Honestly, my moment of clarity didn't stop me from wondering if Belia was going to return to my head after she excused herself to make some calls to her family back home. Sadly, it was then that I realized I was an addict for real. With only a half a head of weave in my hair, Belia asked me to return to the salon at a later date. This gave me a few days to scold myself for having a one-track mind when there were obviously much bigger issues in the world than purchasing a 16-inch or an 18-inch. Frustrated with my economic situation, I had been excited to get a weave that didn't have to be maintained as frequently, but I was now saddened that with the amount I had spent on my hair, I could have texted "Yele" 70 times. After all of her family had been accounted for, Belia called me back in the shop to finish what she had started. I had come to terms with the whole situation, hoping that when the six months were up I could make another attempt at rocking my natural hair -- this time for a whole different reason. I left the shop with curls, length, and bounce, knowing that even though the process was an expense, everything I realized was the investment.

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By: Yvette Terrell on 2/14/2010 3:34PM
I truly understand the importance of our "natural" state of hair. For years I permed and wraped, sat under the dryer so the breese could flow freely. I decided to go natural and loved it! Now I'm older and although its not natural, it doesn't mean I am not a sista its just a preference. Reading your article was a wake up call you needed, there is so much more.
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By: navea on 2/16/2010 7:49AM
I can sure feel your pain. For the past 10yrs. I have been sporting a weave myself, and I'm trying to get out of that frame of mind of wearing fake hair. My hair is naturally beautiful, but I guess it's that feeling of wanting to look another way or be another person. Ummm can I say "Europeanish?"
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By: dre on 2/16/2010 9:47AM
You women should be ashamed of yourself. What you are displaying is self-hatred,love yourself and your beautiful natural hair.
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By: Pelican on 2/18/2010 9:33PM
Yup. I keep my natural hair unabashedly because I am fearful of being bald when I get old. Seriously. I envision a beautiful snow white mini afro when I am 85. Besides, I love my hair and I don't care who doesn't. I REALLY love my woolly hair. My husband does too; he's so cool.
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By: shawntele on 2/16/2010 10:30AM
for about ten years i had my hair in a short fade like a guys and i swore i would never grow my hair back and guess what i wear weave an i love it i do not see nothing wrong with weaves wigs and weaves have been around for centuries i do not see anything wrong with them it is all about personal choice live you life and do want you want to do as long as it does not hurt anyone else so next people are going to be talking about false nails and eyelashes keep it movin lol
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By: Truethat on 2/16/2010 1:39PM
I used to wear weaves back in the days. However, now I wear my hair natural. It feel so good to be free.
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By: yaza on 2/16/2010 1:50PM
Women wear your weaves as long as you like. Black men are just jealous and wear weaves themselves and those sissy braides and dreds need to go. They conk their hair like Sharpton to have straight hair like a white man. Its self hatred and a longing to be seen as soft and feminine. Black men don't have a problem with that fag look? Not so long ago they greased up everything with their girlie jeri curl look. Back men are just jealous of your gender and want to be a the girl. They need to top focusing on what black women do as women and on what black re not doing as men.
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By: KD on 2/16/2010 4:39PM
I believe black women should do what they want with their hair, however, I know for a fact that if we appreciated how we naturally were born, other races would see the beauty in which we possess. We try so hard to be what we are not, and instead of being looked at as unique, we are looked at as fake and wishing to look like what we are not(European, Spanish, etc). You can only be truly appreciated for who you are once you can honestly appreciate the way God created you. The cycle of self hatred will continue because we are teaching our children that who we are is not beautiful, and that is the most sad and hurtful thing about our race.
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By: toyna on 2/16/2010 7:01PM
We have never been into weaves, being 1/2 Cherokee i have naturally wavy hair, I have Cousins that wear weaves, and hot comb their hair, I always been somewhat jealous of them, Don't think weave is a Black thing because it's not, White women was wearing weave before you even heard of it to conceal their thinning hair, In hollywoood, Almost all the actresses wear weave for fuller hair, What ever make you feel good, DO IT.
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By: pnano99 on 2/17/2010 12:35AM
Black men are just jealous and wear weaves themselves and those sissy braides and dreds need to go. They conk their hair like Sharpton to have straight hair like a white man.
Most "black" men today (and for years now) shave their head or wear their hair short and natural. You can count the "black" men on one hand who "conk" their hair today. African American men started years ago to go natural or shave their heads and started to working on their bodies. And as a result, women of every race and persuasion became attracted to them. If only you "sistas" could get the message. It's the bodies (and attitudes) that make AA women attractive. NOT FAKE HAIR! Fake weaved hair IS A TURNOFF! Believe me! AA women never looked more attractive than they did in the 70's and early 80's with their natural Afro's and shapely bodies. Angela Davis, Kathleen Cleaver, Elaine Brown, Pam Grier, Tamra "Cleopatra Jones" etc., etc. Big Afros, big earings, banging bodies in short skirts, WHEW
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