My favorite part of this week's much-talked-about episode of The Oprah Winfrey Show where Chris Rock and Solange Knowles talked about Good Hair? That one photo of Oprah back in the Eighties. The one Chris Rock referred to as "the mean news." Oprah had the fro that dreams are made of! Round, solid, like the Jackson 5 back in the day. That was a fro with power.
I saw Oprah's Good Hair episode a day late -- by the time I watched it, my friends on Twitter and Facebook had basically recapped the whole thing sentence by sentence online. But still, I watched and was pleasantly surprised. In my opinion, Oprah's hair episode was ten times better than Tyra's -- because she made sure to have balance. Oprah talked about relaxers, she revealed her hairstory (and Chris Rock's!), she was inclusive and featured white women and their own hair struggles (Ali Wentworth's segment on being blonde was HILARIOUS!). Oprah's episode was more well rounded in the sense that she attempted to effectively explain the similarities, while still recognizing the enormous differences between black and white hair.
But there was still some points raised that left me scratching my head.
At one point, Chris Rock declares that "women relax their hair for other women, because men don't care about hair." Then he goes on and on about when he's dates Asian and white women in the past, how his hands have been thirsty, and he's enjoyed running his fingers through their hair. So... which is it? Pick one and stick with it, Chris.
In my experience, men DO care about hair. They just try to convince you that they don't. They may not notice if you subtly change your style. But in general -- and in my experience -- men will express anguish if you start talking about cutting your hair off, or changing the style dramatically.
Forget kids, Chris Rock will say the darndest things. And he got Oprah to laugh at the craziest stuff. "That's when you were a slave, huh?" he said about her childhood photograph. "That's when you were hanging out with Anita Hill!" he said of another. And Oprah laughed and laughed. A little too hard, almost... but I bought it. Hats off to Oprah for befriending a comedian who we all have seen make jokes about her love life. "That lucky Stedman!"
I bet this Oprah episode was a wake up call for women who haven't yet educated themselves about their hair, or who haven't really thought about the reasons they may choose the styles that they do, or question the pain they put themselves through in the name of hair. Certain key points seemed to really resonate with the audience -- the declaration that black hair is a 9 billion dollar industry, that Solange Knowles used to spend more than I make in a year on weaves and extensions alone, and that little kids are suffering from self esteem problems because of this madness.
I absolutely loved the story of the family from Pasadena who Skyped in -- Rolondo, Vanessa, and Raven. The mother cut off her hair to better identify with her three year old daughter, who was already struggling with not feeling as pretty as her classmates because of the texture of her natural hair. I thought that was a lovely story. And maybe it's all in my head, but it seemed a little pointed when Oprah said to the mother "so you cut your hair off. And Chris...made a movie." It made me wish Malaak Compton-Rock was on the set, just to add in her two cents to the whole Good Hair discussion.
Chris Rock's Good Hair has already been getting huge buzz, but Oprah just set this film up for even bigger success when it opens October 9. I look forward to going to the theater on opening night, so I can experience it with the rest of America. How will this movie perform at the box office? Will Good Hair start a revolution? Will it lead women to change the way they look at, and consequently treat their hair? Only time will tell, I suppose.
What did you think?
** all photos from The Oprah Winfrey Show



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By: Kemetica on 10/05/2009 9:44PM
I agree with the comments about "Good hair" "Bad Hair"..thank God we got some hair, whether it's short or long..I've been made to feel self conscious about my hair because when it's flat ironed..whites and even asians, etc. usually get around to asking if it's really mine. That's infuriates me because there are all kinds of hair and ALL hair is good when you take care of it like anything else!!!
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By: Sunshine on 10/06/2009 1:06PM
PEOPLE/MEDIA WAKEUP - "Good Hair" is having some. Ask someone who has lost their hair to a cancer, a fire injury or some kind of skin condition that doesn't allow their hair to grow, etc. We really need to get off the plantations with this kind of mentallity. I know that this is suppose to be bringing about an awareness to our people, but please, let's live in the now. I am not going to prove to anyone that my hair is mine - be it long, short, relaxed, natural, pressed, weaved or whatever....Because it really doesn't matter to God. Why should it matter to anyone else. Life is to short to this nonsense. Enjoy life with or without hair. We need to stop judging ourselves so we can stop judging others. Love and Light
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By: Nikki on 10/06/2009 10:28PM
I enjoyed watching the Oprah episode regarding "good" vs. "bad" hair debate. Oprah made it inclusive by addressing an issue that affects by all women. For non-whites, it's been treated negativity, and sometimes attributed by our communities of color. We allowed ourselves to adopt western ideas regarding women's beauty. There are major differences in the language that is used to describe ethnic hair and which can be quite offensive.
It’s especially difficult for women of color because we wouldn’t be considered fashion forward with a “messy bun”. I myself, a mixed female (Black, White, Native American, (Creole) with curls can identify with those issues. I have challenges shopping for the right products. I feel that my population is neglected when it comes to hair care needs. Hair is highly valued in our society, and we need to empower each other and not call attention to what hair or no hair is on our heads.
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By: Africa on 10/09/2009 1:06PM
First of all i must say it's so cool that most of us on this thread weather we are white, black, hispanic, italian or mixed race can collectively and cordially for the most part (with the exception of maybe two comments) can come to a conclusion that i feel should be more obvious, we all have hair issues. As an african american woman i actually feel it's kinda selfish to focus on just the black community when it comes to the issues and consequences of beauty. When you look at the price we all in America choose to pay just to find something accomodating, conveinient or classy it's sad. I mean ladies, let's look at this if it isnt the Hair care industry for women of all races it's the cosmetic industry or the issue of weight, then cosmetic surgeries like breast implants and butt implants and rhynoplasties, liposuctions botox parties (which is injecting a poison into the face that actualy paralyzes to prevent wrinkles)and Tanning issues, fade cream a cream that are suppose to be used to fade dark spots on the face which some women do but some go further to slightly fade the skin(which i must add you cant purchase an OTC medication that is strong enough to completely fade your skin tone) diet pills that contain ingredients with long term and lethatl effects. In asia some women have gone as far as to de-slant their eyes surgicaly some even get rods surgicaly placed in their legs to lenghten them for height i mean i can go on and on about the problems that women of all cultures face and that's why i kinda feel that it's selfish to focus on just one race. What are we diverting the attention from? the fact that the unemployment rate is still climbing? the fact that our children have lost all sense of control and are fighting each other to the death (all of our children)? the fact that as a COUNTRY we are the most UNHEALTHY and the FATEST of any other countries? I mean come on. Ladies this is a shame!!! OH AND NO I AM NOT GONNA WATCH CHRIS ROCKS PIECE OF GARBAGE MOVIE I RATHER SPEND MY $25(i dont know how much tickets cost now) on gas for my car so i can get to work to pay my bills. i dont think im gonna find out anything i dont already know. I understand the idea but i REALLY FELL THAT WE AS WOMEN OF ALL RACES CONSTANTLY ARE BATTLING SOMETHING and when another race is in the spotlight others use that opportunity to make themselves feel better when we WOMEN are always targeted.
I wonder how much does America make off of us Women by using beauty as the bait.
love all sistas of the rainbow.
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By: prudence on 10/09/2009 7:54PM
BLACK WOMEN DEEP DOWN!
I never thought I would respond to this topic, but since the movie will be out in a few days I must comment. FACT: Black women have never been comfortable with the "TEXTURE" of their hair--KINKY, NAPPY, WOOLY, etc.
The term "good" hair arrived in the black household when someone in the family was "mixed" with another race--white, asian, indian, etc., thus, giving the child a mixture of both genes to produce the "good" hair. The term "good" hair means it is not KINKY, NAPPY, WOOLY--meaning you can just "wash" and "wear".
Wash and wear your hair "natural" in the Black Community means you wear an Afro, crew cut, dreadlocks (all natural) no pressing or relaxer to get the hair straight.
I don't have a problem with Black women
pressing or relaxing their hair--it is easier to handle than if it were "natural". Where I part comapany with these black women who get weaves is:
The "texture" of the weaved hair is not a Black Person's hair. Therefore, it looks "ridiculous" for a Black woman to be wearing a TEXTURE of hair that obviously does not belong to HER RACE (check out Tyra Banks' weave) she looks ridiculous with that long straight hair--it looks "unnatural". I love Tyra.
Everyone knows what a Black person's natural hair looks like; so when you have a weave or a wign on, everyone knows it is not your natural hair. A lot of Black people suffer from "inferior" complex. It amazes me how all of a sudden 99% of Black women have to have a weave in order to feel beautiful even if she is ugly! That tells me that deep down you do not believe that what you have is "good" enough.
That says a lot about our culture. If having a "weave" makes you feel beautiful, you are admitting that you do not believe the hair you were born with looks good; therefore, you have to wear some other ethnic hair in order to look good--that is really sad.
I cab understand if a person has a hair problem--balding, thinning hair, etc. then there is nothing wrong in trying to look better with a wig or a weave. I can also understand if occasionally when you are going out, you want to "change" up a bit with different hairstyles--throw on a wig or weave with a different color for the occassion. But when you have to wear a weave day in, day out, or you do not feel like your hair looks good, you have BIG issues.
Indian, White, Hispanic or Asian hair is not better looking than Black hair. It is said to see that Black people believe this nonsense. Just as how some Black people hate their dark complexion and bleach their skin because they believe
"lighter" looks better--it is the same concept.
White, Indian, Hispanic, and Asian women who wear weave, clip ons, wigs and extensions, etc. do not look ridiculous because their natural hair "TEXTURE" looks the same as the weave and the wig.
I know I will not change any Black woman's mind--because some of them already have this "inferiority" complex about themself, but I had to say my piece.
P.S. I press and curl my hair and sometimes I just wash and braid. I am not here to tell Black women how to wear their hair, I am just telling Black women the "real" reason they wear the weaves and wigs--they are ashamed of the "TEXTURE" of their hair (although they will never admit to it).
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By: Tyrone on 11/11/2009 6:14PM
The one thing I dislike about the african american community/culture is that we spend to much time denying and pointing the finger at others. RAP MUSIC does not make people do violence, but it doesnt help. I listen to Barry White to get me in the mood for love and gospel music to inspire/overcome.. Nobody will ever do a driveby to classical music. Teen pregnancy and the incarceration rate is a major problem in the innercity with black and latino cultures,it is worthless to point to suburban/rural america or "white people" we need to address the realities we need to deal with.. Of course black women dont wanna be white,but America through systematic racism and white/euro supremacy taught us that we are not beautiful and things black arent good or desirable. From relationships to self identity we hate ourselves or was taught to; through mental slavery; a fact. Nappy hair is way more manageable than straight hair, because that is its natural state. I love this movie for shedding light on the issue just as The color purple and Boyz and the hood did. Lets face facts, stop avoiding truths and blaming others... Madam Cj Walker would be ashamed if she knew how much money we made the Koreans and Whites and how less we control of our hair... :(
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